The Secret Reasons Women Argue

1. The hidden reason she is arguing

I don't like it when he minimizes the importance of my feelings or requests. I feel dismissed and unimportant.

1. What she needs not to argue

She needs to feel validated and cherished. Instead she feels judged and ignored.

2. The hidden reason she is arguing

I don't like it when he forgets to do the things I ask, and then I sound like a nag. I feel like I am begging for his support.

2. What she needs not to argue

She needs to feel respected and remembered. Instead she feels neglected and at the bottom of his list of priorities.

3. The hidden reason she is arguing

I don't like it when he blames me for being upset. I feel like I have t obe perfect to be loved. I am not perfect.

3. What she needs not to argue

She needs him to understand why she is upset and reassure her that she is still loved and that she doesn't have to be perfect. Instead she feels unsafe to be herself.

4. The hidden reason she is arguing

I don't like it when he raises his voice or starts making lists of why he is right. It makes me feel like I am wrong and he doesn't care about my point of view.

4. What she needs not to argue

She needs to feel understood and respected. INstead she feels unheard, bullied, and pushed down.

5. The hidden reason she is arguing

I don't like his condescending attitude when I ask questions about decisions we need to make. It makes me feel like I am a burden or that I am wasting his time.

5. What she needs not to argue

She needs to feel that he cares about her feelings, and respectes her need to gather information. Instead she feels disrespected and unappreciated.

6. The hidden reason she is arguing

I don't like it when he explains why I should not be hurt, worried, angry, or anything else. I feel invalidated and unsupported.

6. What she needs not to argue

She needs to feel validated and understood. Instead she feels unsupported, unloved, and resentful.

7. The hidden reason she is arguing

I don't like it when he expects me to be more detached. It makes me feel like it is wrong or weak to have feelings.

7. What she needs not to argue

She needs to feel respected and cherished, especially when she is sharing her feelings. Instead she feels unsafe and unprotected.